Confession – I am just in love with this song! (If you haven’t heard it, please listen to it right NOW! And then come back to finish reading :))
The interesting thing about this song is that Meghan Trainor has been slammed for writing a song that promotes anti-feminist ideas and promotes gender stereotypes. Of course, a lot of it is tongue-in-cheek but I’ve really been thinking about the lyrics of this song and how it translates practically. I mean, let’s have a look at the song:
Take me on a date, I deserve it babe, and don’t forget the flowers every anniversary
I think it is hugely important to keep dating after you’re married or after the initial honeymoon period of a new relationship is over. My parents have regular date nights and guess what – they are coming up to their fortieth wedding anniversary. It’s important to work at keeping the romance alive in amongst all the working, housework, family functions, studying, and general life admin. Don’t assume that just because you successfully put a ring on it that the work is done! I remember my ex-husband saying to me once (and in hindsight, this is probably where alarm bells should have started REALLY ringing) that he was bored now that the chase was over. Same with the whole flowers on the anniversary – it isn’t about the physical flowers, it is about the fact that you took the time to think about flowers that your wife / significant other likes, and actually ordered them. It might seem like a silly thing, especially to the ever practical guys, but I know for me it is so heart warming.
‘Cause if you’ll treat me right, I’ll be the perfect wife
Obviously nobody is perfect. But the underlying message here is that it is important to treat others the way you want to be treated and that it is important to give as much as you receive. I love taking care of people – always have. But I am more inclined to take care of you when I see that you are equally willing to take care of me!
You gotta know how to treat me like a lady
Is being a lady all that bad? I know the quid pro quo at the moment is to be all “rah rah women can do everything men can” but why can’t we just celebrate our differences? Maybe I am old-fashioned, but I love having doors opened for me, or the cute thing men do when they put their hand on the small of your back to guide you, or open the lid on a jar because it is just too darn tight! (Before feminists start screaming at me, obviously if a woman and a man are in the same job, they should be getting paid equivalent salaries depending on education and experience…)
Even when I’m acting crazy, Tell me everything’s alright
Women are cray-cray, there is no denying it. We are ruled by hormones, and let’s be honest, hormones are just bitches. There will be times where we will cry over an ad on television, or yell at you for five minutes over something very trivial. Or, we’ll just be sad and have no idea why. Instead of just looking us disdainfully and muttering something mean about PMS, just give us a hug! Be supportive. We KNOW we are crazy, but the crazy just has to come out sometimes!
Tell me I’m beautiful each and every night
I actually do not remember my ex-husband ever complimenting the way I look. Girls, if you are anything like me, you put a lot of effort into the way you look. I want my man to be proud to have me by his side so I always make sure I am dressed well and looking pretty. (Of course, makeup and clothes are fun so it’s not like this is exactly a chore!). But guys – recognise the effort! Tell us we look beautiful, or pretty, or whatever word you want. It doesn’t have to be every night like it says in the song (I mean, she needs to rhyme and “tell us sporadically” doesn’t have quite the same ring to it) but make an effort to make sure the woman in your life knows you’re proud of her, appreciate her effort, and think you’re really lucky to have her in your life.
Even if I was wrong, You know I’m never wrong, Why disagree?
Just kidding! We’re wrong (sometimes).
Anyway, this was a bit of a random post but the song has just been playing on my mind of late. It annoys me when people focus on gender equality – if we weren’t meant to be different, God wouldn’t have created two genders!
I also love this picture – and the fact that it came up when I googled “dear future husband”.